Wow, it’s been a long time since I *had* time to post anything new here. Business has been great over the summer, but working two jobs in wildly divergent career fields takes its toll after a while (a necessary path for some, just not necessarily one I would recommend as a long-term lifestyle choice, you know?)
This crossed my desktop this morning, and since it’s both right on the money and pertinent to a lot of what drives couples into counselling in the first place (or individuals with patterns of their own to deal with beyond any singular relationship instance), I wanted to forward it here for reference.
“Men and women are raised to objectify each other and to objectify the relationships they’re in. Thus our partners are often seen as assets rather than someone to share mutual emotional support.
A lot of the self help literature out there isn’t helpful either (no, men and women are not from different planets, you over-generalizing prick.) And for most of us, mom and dad surely weren’t the best examples either.
Fortunately, there’s been a lot of psychological research into healthy and happy relationships the past few decades and there are some general principles that keep popping up consistently that most people are unaware of or don’t follow. In fact, some of these principles actually go against what is traditionally considered “romantic” or normal in a relationship.”
Read more from Mark about six common but hugely toxic relationship habits I know many of us have done in our time.