Blog Archive – Past Years

2017
January
The deluge begins
The Culture of Overwork
A post-march thought
I have no pithy title for this one

February
Forgive and… *Don’t* Forget?
Book Review: Jack Urwin, “Man Up: Surviving Modern Masculinity”
Arguing Intelligently
Faith, Hope, and the Peril of Outcome Attachments

March
Life is a highway, and so are attachments
Empathy, Compassion, Empaths, and Enmeshment
Performance Anxiety and Imposter Syndrome
Distorted Mirrors, Distorted Behaviours
Trust: Creating a Flexible, Non-binary Model

April
Achieving Dreams (…or not)
Gaslighting and the Subjectivity of Truth
Defending the Barricades: How Emotional Entrenchment Works
Needs & Wants: The Surprising Voyage of Self-discovery

May
Developing a Needs & Wants Framework
Roadmaps: Getting Your Needs Met
Consent in Relationships: The Unacknowledged Country
Differentiating Depression: Affective and Cognitive Approaches
(Re)Constructing Self-Esteem

June
Relationships and Sacrifice
Attachment Injuries: The Ghosts that Haunt Us

July
Respite and Momentum
The Family of Origin Snapshot: Why History Matters
Substituting Need for Love

August
The Importance of Shared Lexicon
Considering the Midlife Crisis
The Complicity of Women’s Silence
Unmaking Love: The Slow “Death by 1000 Cuts”
Remaking Love: Repairing Intimacy (part 1)

September
Remaking Love: Repairing Intimacy (part 2)
Therapist vs Juice Box: Humility and Humiliation
Anger and Silence
Caregiving versus Caretaking

October
Repair or Retaliation?
The Interconnectedness of Depression, Burnout, and Fatigue
Projecting an “Idealized Other”
Countering Projections: Healthy Differentiation
Women, Middle Age, and Discernment

November
The Hedgehog’s Dilemma
Beyond “He Said”/”She Said”*
Cutting Ourselves Some Slack
Differential Starting Points and Invisible Effort

December
[Repost] 3 C’s of Conflict Management: Capitulation, Compromise, Collaboration
Communication Epiphanies
No Place Like “Home” for the Holidays


2016
The Relationship Escalator Metaphor
Doing the Work Beforehand


2015
Dealing with Toxicity
Looking at Human Foibles
Men, Emotional Intelligence, and Therapy
Grief Resources
Monogamy, Polyamory, and everything in between
When “Family” Becomes a Sick System
Theoretical versus applied… relationships??
Unhelpful thinking styles
Transactional Affection and Relationship Ledgers
Not in front of the children, dear!
Rolling Through the Seasons


2014
Managing Conflict More Gracefully
Spring has sprung! (link to “Feelings Are Note Facts”)
Changing the Patterns
The Four Horsemen
Systemic trauma and hereditary impacts
Empowerment and Personal Responsibility
Apologies, Forgiveness, and… It’s Complicated
The best gifts
Making Marriage Work
What to expect when starting counselling
Even late advice is still useful
Getting back up after depression
Psychology of Eating
Clutter, Cleaning and The Psychology of the Homefront
Backlog of links: Relationships
Gottman’s “Masters and Disasters”
How Things Go Wrong


2013
Aging Parents and the Support Conundrum
Toxic Relationship Habits
Military Mental Health


2012
Managing “Resolution Fever”
The More Force You Apply…


2011
Things You Never Know Until You Know Them
Relationships and Relational Ledgers
Choice, Validation, and Being Poly for Effective vs Ineffective Reasons
Empowerment beats advice-giving, every time
3 C’s of Conflict Management: Capitulation, Compromise, Collaboration